“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” -Washington Irving
Grief can already be a burden, but combined with chronic pain, it is virtually unbearable. It is just another stone added to your already full bag of boulders that is weighing you down.
I remember when my grandfather, Ed Gold, passed away two years ago. I could not be in the same room as his body because it would send me into a bad pain flare.
I was holding all that grief in, thinking that it would only make the pain worse. However, burying it made it just as bad. I did not truly grieve for my grandfather until two years later, after I was free from the chains of CRPS. This time also allowed me to discover another truth:
His passing was not the only thing I grieved.
I was also grieving for the life I believed I had lost to CRPS, about how I let people down as it took over every aspect of my being.
I had allowed all of this buried grief to mount in my soul to the point it became an addition to my pain, not a relief.
What is my point?
Grief is a natural part of life. Whether it is the passing of a loved one or the life you believed you lost, do not bottle it up.
When you allow yourself to grieve, you are relinquishing a burden from your soul, giving you a breath of fresh air. Do not neglect the chance to grieve, it is necessary to living life, especially with chronic pain.
Keep up the fight!